Monthly Archives: September 2009
>Hello dear readers,
Before you continue reading this blog-post, I would like to tell you that this one might seem a bit blunt to you, but, it is what I think is the truth.
We live in a supposedly supernatural world. We all have certain needs, wants and we never miss a chance to expect. But, in reality, have we ever tried to understand the difference between what we ‘want’ and what we ‘need’, or, what we ‘want’ and what we ‘expect’, or what we ‘need’ and what we ‘expect’? Have we been able to tell ourselves with all our self-confidence that we are pretty clear that it is either a want, need or an expectation?
I just wish to throw some more light on these words, by decoding these words to the extent I am able to, which have been bothering me since quite a lot many days.
When we are around people we ‘expect’ them to notice us, to think about us. But, what we really ‘want’ most of the times is that they just should be jealous about us, about what we are. And when our want is such, our ‘need’ doesn’t stay far behind in defining that we really want to stand out from the crowd and be able to say ‘I am the best’.
When we are with our near-and-dear-ones, we just be ourselves, we don’t have to brag about ourselves or try to be what we aren’t. But, then our expectations differ. We then ‘expect’ them to do various things. To help us in our tasks, to do things that would strengthen our relationship with them and loads of other stuff. But, do we ‘want’ them to do these things or ‘expect’ them to? And the ‘need’ remains that they give us all that we want, never even giving it a thought if it’s something they wish to do.
When we are with our friends, we don’t mind pulling their legs for every small bit of sun that we get when we do it. On the contrary, we ‘expect’ them to not do the same with us. We don’t mind finally turning into hypocrites in our own eyes. We ‘want’ them to be themselves when they are with us, but, we might ourselves wear a mask difficult to unearth. We ‘need’ them to listen to everything that we have to say, leaving aside all that they ‘need’ to do. We ‘need’ them to be there with us during our thins, but, might just fail to realize that we also should be there when they face theirs…
And finally coming to our own selves. Do we really know what we ‘want’, ‘need’ and ‘expect’? Are we really able to decode the mystery of these three words and apply it into our own lives? Or are we among those who never really have understood the meaning of these words and just use them like words which are supposedly just the synonyms of each other? Do we try to justify our words by saying that our wants are our needs and not just mere expectations?
These are the questions which can be best answered by us when they are put up for ourselves. If we really wish to lead a happy life, I guess (and I believe) the realization to the answers to these questions serve as a pre-requisite.
Leaving you with something that will help you realize your own self… Sayonara…
“Life will give us all the choices, but, what we choose will decide our destiny.”
>I am back… and this post is not like my previous two.
This blog-post is a review of a book I recently came across by the courtesy of a dear friend, who could grab an e-book copy of the book (even when the book hasn’t been published), and I went ahead with it because I found the prologue of the book interesting. So, I was fortunate enough to read this book. The author of this not-so-famous book is Bhavin Shah.
The story is a fiction about the life of two best friends, Ron and Roy, living in south Bombay and the ways in which their lives get entangled and disentangled in the period after their graduation. The way they seem to get a hold of their life and lose it even before they could realize they did. Their love for the most essential people in their life and how those people somehow misunderstand them, and all the relationships come crashing down. And, at last, the ‘All’s well that ends well’ finale.
A simple but profound story is very well presented here by the author. The vocabulary speaks that the person is well-read and has knowledge of use of words and phrases.
But, once you are with the book and think about the story again, you realize that the story is kind of a mash-up of various Shah Rukh Khan movies that I have seen – Devdas (the loss of love phases for both the friends), Kabhie Khushi Kabhie Gham (the way a family breaks down when a kid contemplates marrying a girl of his choice, and not his parents’), Kal Ho Na Ho (hero dies in the end and the cat of truth is let out of the bag), Kuch Kuch Hota Hai (ends up with his best friend finally). Somewhere after reading the gist, my expectations had increased and I thought this depiction could probably have been avoided by something that would be more close to life. I am a fan of SRK myself (may be not to a very great extent), but, even then, I feel that the immaturity of the Indian cinema on the entertainment-base and revenue generating movies is pointless (detailed movie talks in some of my later blog).
The things that I liked about the book include how the story was interwoven and the popular saying: “Destiny decides who comes into your life, and gets to stay in your life…” was depicted… It couldn’t have been better.
The best part of this novel (or I should say mini-novel) were the poetry that pierce straight through the heart and the pain is felt when you read the book.
One more astounding part I would like to mention was how Roy decoded Ron’s diary, even though he hadn’t been in any kind of communication with Ron about his life since three years (when they had parted ways). This shows the extents to which friends know each other despite the boundaries of distance and time…
The quotes of the friends, which speak all about love. This one from Roy:
“It is simple to fall in love, yet the most difficult part is to find someone to catch you. That is why we say that Love is Simply Complicated.”
This really made me think twice about it… And the next by Ron:
“One does not ‘fall’ in or out of love. One ‘grows’ in love.”
How true are these! And their significance in our lives is so subtle yet so profound! the manner in which they have been put forth in the book is truly mind-boggling. It totally blew me off!
On the whole-Its a great book with a one-of-its-kind storyline. A must read for those who think their lives are define sorrows and their graveness.
Just hoping that someday I will be able to write books like this or probably even better…
P. S. 1: The link of the complete book is attached herewith. If it doesn’t work, the links for various chapters are below:
P. S. 2: I am no critic, just a well-wisher. I just wrote what I felt after going through the book. I don’t wish to harm the feelings of any fans of the novel. And, I regret if I am hurting anyone by this, and I am sorry from the heart if I have.
aren’t just about the ‘Hi’s and ‘Hello’s but are about never saying ‘Bye’. That relationships don’t flourish because people are individually good, but, they do because they are the best when they are together. That friendship is not just gossiping and ridiculing the guy or girl sitting next to us, but, about supporting someone in the times they need us and trusting them more than we trust ourselves.